I was facilitating a luncheon meeting but on this occasion was happy not to speak. There with me was a group of business leaders who resembled a torn and tattered team at halftime: physically beaten down even though the game wasn’t complete. We had gathered in front to hear the founder of a successful company speak on the subject of “How to Rebuild Business Cultures to Succeed Again.”
The mood was grim. Not a lot of boasting or bragging going on with this gang.
My thoughts drifted back to thoughts of what the speaker was going to say to this despondent group of business leaders –how in the world could his message lift theses leaders of the ashes of despair? No sooner had I been thinking these thoughts, did the speaker stroll into the room. He wasn’t cocky, but extremely confident. He worked the crowd like a well-seasoned politician, greeting everyone and shaking hands. He brimmed with remarkable people skills and genuine warmth. I sat amazed as the whole mood of the room changed. He seemed to alter the environment of the gathering with only his positive emotions. It was like this leader’s emotions were contagious. Soon everyone seemed to perk up and sit up. His message was insightful and relevant. He inspired us with words and gave us a pathway to renewed action. The thing I noticed was his electrifying eye contact and physical energy. Everyone seemed to sync to his optimistic attitude and feed off his vision!
When the meeting concluded, the networking and energy soared. Business cards were exchanged with hearty handshakes and smiles all around.
Wow, one guy, one emotional exchange, one meeting, and dozens were impacted for good!
Don’t tell me Emotional Intelligence is “just a soft skill.” It is a “hard edge business skill” that happens to be the number one predictor of peak performance, professional success, and personal excellence.
Emotional Intelligence is that unique ability of understanding how emotions drive our behaviors and the behaviors of those around us. It is a game changing skill that you can develop. Things like your personal self-awareness, self-management of your emotions, and authentic relational connections.
I guarantee that business speaker was extremely intentional about his mood, attitude, and emotions. He knew he was contagious for better or for worse. And this time, it was for the better. It was powerful.
Try it on today:
Here is my challenge to you today:
Try on a powerful and positive emotion today. Watch and observe how people respond to your smile, your body language, and your choice of words… your mood can move people. Walk differently, talk differently, act differently, and watch the results.
My dad used to say: “people do business with people they like.” We follow leaders we like, we purchase from people we like, and we even select businesses based on products and services we like. So, be likable! Watch the power of Emotional Intelligence in your life and I think you’ll see some positive new changes around how people respond to you. Your personal attraction will go up. One of the very cool effects is that you’ll see people change for the good because of your mood. It’s powerful and it provides powerful results!